Wedding Planning first steps | I’m engaged. Now what?

January 6

Hurray! He finally popped the question and your beaming both inward and outward, with that fabulous piece of frosting on your finger! But, now what? Where do you go from here and how should you get the ball rolling?

Wedding Planning First Steps

1. First off, my friend, Celebrate!

Do a little happy dance, cork your favourite vintage, pop a bottle of bubbly.. whatever gets your heart going. This moment is precious and be sure to savour every second of it.

2. Then, as they say in NYC, “Start Spreading the News!”

You may want to shout it to the moon and back as soon as the ring is slipped on your finger. Or you might prefer to keep the moment private. But one things for sure, you should tell your parents first, then family and friends to follow. And while it may be your secret desire, resist the urge to change your Facebook status, until the important people know… first!

You’re welcome to share the news by phone, email or even send a small announce via snail mail. You determine whats best. But either way, enjoy it. You’ve never had such exciting news!

3. You could even throw a party.

Personally, I crave an excuse to throw a soiree. An intimate gathering at your apartment perhaps? or how about a cocktail party in your go-to restaurants private dining lounge? If you’re not up to the challenge, don’t fret. Many times your friends and family will jump at the occasion to host an engagement party.

4. Discuss a Date

Here comes the third degree, but it’s only because they love you! “When are you getting married?” “Where will it be?” “What type of wedding will you have?” Feel free to share a date if you have one, or let anxious friends know plans are in the works — as they should be, especially if you want to hold your wedding at a popular time of year. June -August are prime wedding season and regarded vendors start to book over a year out: venues and photographers should be first on your list of consideration.

5. Dream a little Dream

It’s time to consider the big picture and discuss what each of your expectations will be for the day. Envision the type of wedding you both want and discuss different options that both of you would be happy with. It’s always good to have an ideal, with a second or third option available. That way, should your first choices be unavailable, your ready and prepped to move forward.

This is also the perfect opportunity to consider seeking help. Will your mom most likely help you through the planning process or your closest girlfriend, now turned bridesmaid? With a career, responsibilities and life obligations, you may want to think about a wedding planner. They’ll be there to help guide you through the process and ensure everything is sorted and looked after.

For more on the role of a wedding planner, see HERE and HERE.

6. Acknowledge the Elephant in the Room

No one wants to discuss money, but setting your budget is imperative. So, before you start contacting vendors or making any initial decisions, determine what you’re willing to spend and where the financial contributions will be coming from. Remember:  whom ever decides to help cover the bill will most likely be part of the planning and have influence in major decisions.

Most importantly, make sure you and your fiance are in agreement about your priorities, before talking to your parents about budget and logistics.

*Helpful Tip: I suggest picking your top three vendors, slotting their costs into your budget and then divvying out the remaining, between your others.

7. Secure your Jewel’s Safety

Surprisingly, this slips most people’s mind, but it’s important to ensure your ring…and quickly! You may dream of never removing it, but realistically, you’ll have to at times. Talk to an insurance agent about coverage, in case the stones or the ring itself ever needs to be repaired or replaced.

So, if your insurance wasn’t included in the purchase, you’ll first, need an appraisal by a certified independent gemologist; most jewelers will provide this service. Be sure you understand all the terms of the policy, including if you’re covered if the ring is lost, stolen, or damaged, and what stipulations there are, if any. If the ring becomes damaged, will they repair it by the jeweler of your choice, or do you have to use from a list of pre-set companies? You’ll also want to know how long the claims process takes.

and lastly….

8. Start Shopping

Find the perfect organizer for your planning and start collecting worksheets and tools to help you prepare. We have many on our site under the “Tools & Worksheets” category to get you started and on your way!

Well, my friend, I couldn’t be happier for you. Whether I know you personally or not, my heart flutters at the news of an engagement. Send me an email, text or tweet and share your incredible story! I’d love to hear it and maybe even feature you two love birds! Eeek!

Happy Planning!

About Kailey-Michelle

Grace clinger. Marriage lover. Moment savourer. Passionate Creator. Seeking to inspire this generation as a Professional Wedding Planner, Speaker, Writer and Business Coach, to focus on what matters most in life and leave a legacy of love and service.
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3 Responses

  1. Great advice. Looking through your planning guide and loving it!

    • Kailey-Michelle says:

      Thanks Alyssa! I appreciate you stopping by and Im so glad your enjoying the planning guide! Let me know if you have any questions. I’m more than happy to help!

  2. yuvika says:

    Amazing! such clear understanding of step by step planning! Very thoughtful.